Long time no blog (Part 2)
• Posted by Ego on December 6th, 2007
As part of my last post I thought that I’d take some of the advice that was given to me into action. So there are a few things to talk about since I wrote that post. The first being that I have made a list of ten goals some of which are long term and some of which are short term. The list has no order to it so it’s not from most important to list important but here you go
1) Finish First Year Med
2) Get My Full Drivers Licence
3) Sell a TV or a Computer at Work
4) Cut down my gaming hours of a weekly basis
5) Get a top 16 at a national fencing competition
6) Go out on a date
7) Finish Medicine
Discover my Religious beliefs.
9) Earn enough money so that I’m comfortable and donate the rest to charity, or create my own charity from which 100% goes to third world countries.
10) Have a meaningful relationship with a girl
Now some of these are trivial goals but they are mostly on the list to get me started. Why? because I know that if I don’t start with something easy I’m not going to try any of the harder things on the list on the longer term things on the list.
But enough for my goals. Another thing that I talked about in my last post was about my indecision around girls. well tonight I had a long and meaningful discussion with a girl that I’ve liked for a long time. I told her exactly how I feel and at the moment I feel that I was exceptionally selfish as she is currently dealing with a few emotionally draining issues. But I think that the main thing I stressed was that it was important to me for her to make her own decision based on all the things I told her. Now she is probably thinking a lot about the things we talked about at the moment and the thing is that while it felt good to get all that stuff off my chest at the time I now feel that I’ve put her in a difficult position and that wasn’t my intention at all. But all I can do now I guess is wait for her to make her decision and see what comes of it.
I believe that she will come to the right decision for her and even if it isn’t choosing me I’ll totally understand because I think that I like her enough that I want what is best for her, I’ll probably be a little pissed if she doesn’t choose me but I’d prefer her to be happy with someone else rather than sad with me.
So while I’m waiting for that to happen which could be a longish time, I guess I’ll become preoccupied with my back collection of games that I have accumulated, and I’ll work as hard as I can so that I can afford fencing and convention for next year. As was replied helpfully to my last post “you either make the right decision or you make the decision right” and only time will tell which side I’m on but either way I’ve made a decision because you only truly live once and I want to live my life to the fullest.
So I wish good luck to the girl who is making the tough decision because I want her to get the best decision for her hope that it brings her happiness. Now on to my decision making process hmmmm Assassin’s Creed or Guitar Hero? ? ? ?
A long and hard decision that will be, well till next time, probably not too long at this rate, “live long and prosper” love that quote :).
P.S. Unnamed girl : If your reading this you take as long as you need because things worth having only come to those who wait
Hey Ego,
Good of you to at least do something.
As I’m *pretty* sure I know which girl you are referring to, might I say that it may or may not be the right time for another relationship and yes it almost certainly is selfish to even bring yourself up in such a case.
So basically I wouldn’t expect this to be a decision made soon.
Anyway Ego, good luck with those goals, including *that* one in particular.
Here’s a bit of a hint though - Assassin’s Creed or Guitar Hero is NOT going to get you closer to any of the other goals. In fact, it even contradicts number 4. It will also interfere with number 7, number 8, number 9, number 6, and yes, even number 10. Though I’m pretty sure you’ll see number 1 soon.
That’s not even a goal anymore man, it just looks like something you put there to make yourself feel good about yourself so you can put off some of the others 
May you and the person you end up with in the end be eternally happy.
Mana
P.S. If you are the girl being referred to here, I apologise for the impersonality of referring to you like this, it feels so strange. Perhaps I’m even over-analysing this or something. Sorry again
P.P.S. Ego,
Uh, though I know you’re not the kind of person to do this on purpose, I only just realised that there is a SECOND MEANING to that title…
as in, a second interpretation to Long time no *****…
Try figure it out. It’s not pretty, and that’s not just because ***** should be censored. It’s also because ***** can also be a noun…
Well I’ve changed it but the thing is that the noun you are referring would make sense in my life so although in some other persons circumstances. Also although it may be selfish for me to bring myself up she wanted to know at the time, and I feel that it was important for me to be honest with her as honesty is something I value highly. I know I have just made her decision much more difficult but I believe that it’s important to know all the facts or at least as many of them as you can before you make a decision. So at least she has all of my facts now.
Also when/if she reads this comment I think that she should know that she has my full support with any decision that she makes even if it’s not me.
While my knowledge of the individual involved is limited to the description above, the report of the events leads me to think, somewhat pessimistically perhaps, that you may have unwittingly set yourself up for “LJBF”; four cruel words that no man ever wants to hear.
Dave said this on December 8th, 2007 at 11:46 pm
Unless of course, you actually just want to “LJBF”. Which I’m pretty sure is not the case judging from what was being said, but sometimes it can be more beautiful.
hey guys,
what’s LJBF????
stands for “lets just be friends” - i.e. no relationship please.
So this is how the male mind thinks of this situation.
Suprisingly, there hasn’t been any girl input so far…
Rei said this on December 12th, 2007 at 9:12 am
I like lists.
And goals…
But anyways, someone told me an analogy the other day, and i’m interested to see whether it’s true or not - esp regarding the LJBF situation…
Apparently a girl regards male acquaintances in 2 groups - friends/potential friends, and love interests/boyfriends. And so for each of the 2 groups, we’re meant to have a little ranking system going on. Like 2 ladders. A guy can move from one ladder to the other, but never be on both at once. But according to this analogy, males only have one ladder. So any girl can be a friend and/or a girlfriend, at the same time or whatever. And this is meant to explain why some males manage to have concurrent relationships with many girls and “love” them all at the same time.
Soooo…. was that convoluted or what? >.< Is it true?
oh… the ladder theory again…
I would have to say that males also have two ladders.
I would say that I have no ladders I don’t think that anything is accomplished by a ladder system. I treat each relationship in separation as I believe that every person male or female in my life deserves to be considered in separation from the other people. Also I believe that I currently have a sole existence on the friends/potential friends ladder
Your *own* ladder or someone elses’ ladder??
Everyone elses
I’m pretty sure I’m on the friends’ ladder for some of the same people at least mate.
I think he meant that he’s only on ppl’s friends ladders…
Someone needs to rename this theory. I dub it… Climbing Utensil Theory. =P