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I thought this might be appropriate. I know you are going through a hard time at the moment.

A time for everything

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die;
A time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to break down; and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
A time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose;
A time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rent, and a time to sew;
A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate;
A time of war, and a time of peace.

- Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

I as of yet do not fully understand the loss of one who has lost a parent. To be joined to those special people who bring you into this world, support you and love you from the moment you are born is indeed a wonderful thing. To lose such a connection must be among the greatest feelings of grief that exist. And so, Mum, it may be the case for you once again, and I am sorry that it must happen, if not now, then in the future. There is a time for everything. It may be his time. Maybe he has more time, and for your sake I hope it is not. It is time for you to be strong, and get through this like you did last time. Talk to Dad and Aaron and myself if need be. Tell them of the memories you had and the times you shared with your father. They are there to listen. As am I.

Yet, I also wish for you to express your feelings openly. Do not be afraid to break down and weep if you feel you cannot take any more. Even Aaron knows that by now; you don’t have to put on a mask of emotionlessness just for him.

To Aaron and Dad: I know you are already supporting Mum in her grief. I implore you not only to be strong for her in this time but also to feel her feelings with her, feel them and amplify them if need be. Be reminded of your own mortality and cherish each moment you have with her.

You are all constantly in my thoughts and prayers.

Tony